How to Know a Person by David Brooks is a heartfelt, practical guide to building deeper, more meaningful connections with others, whether at home, at work, or in broader society. As the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Road to Character and The Second Mountain, Brooks draws from his wealth of experience to help us understand one of the most essential yet overlooked skills: the ability to truly see and understand another person.
In a world where many feel unseen, misunderstood, and isolated, Brooks argues that the key to healthy relationships—whether familial, professional, or social—lies in our ability to recognize, value, and listen to each other. He explores profound questions: How can we offer the right kind of attention to others? What conversations can we have to truly connect? What aspects of a person’s story should we pay attention to?
Through a combination of psychology, neuroscience, history, and even theatre, Brooks offers a comprehensive and thoughtful approach to human connection. He encourages readers to embrace the creative act of truly seeing others—not just as they appear, but in their fullness and complexity. This book is for anyone seeking deeper understanding, aiming to create authentic bonds, and longing to both see and be seen.
By learning how to truly know another person, Brooks suggests, we can bridge the divisions that separate us and foster a society that is more compassionate, cohesive, and connected. How to Know a Person is a powerful invitation to practice empathy, deepen relationships, and ultimately enrich our lives and the lives of those around us.
